Friday, 9 July 2004
|0753 - Enough.|
If you've been following the recent voluminous discussion in my journal recently about CONvergence (both the stuff posted to an appropriate entry, and the stuff posted to an inappropriate one), you've seen a lot of crap flung by an arrogant monkey who goes by the LJ user tag of raptavio. He's posted an incredibly self-serving entry to his LJ purporting to analyze my behavior, and that of others, and supporting his use of mocking and trolling. When someone called him on it, he complained.
I don't mind a vigorous exchange of views in my journal. I do, however, mind someone coming in to just fling crap - which is what he's doing, by his own admission.
Yes, freedom of speech is a bitch. You can use it to mock, troll, belittle, and abuse others to satisfy whatever feelings drive you to be a raving asshole. I can also call you a raving asshole, because that's exactly what those who do so are, at least in their online persona.
raptavio, you go right on believing whatever your tiny little troll heart desires. Lots of folks who've actually met me in person know better. In the meantime, don't bother trying to fling more crap in my journal, either for yourself or for cowards who won't do it themselves. You've been banned. Go fling your crap somewhere else.
current mood: pissed off
I've met you in person and I still think you are self-serving too. :) (not that I don't think raptavio is) he is...we all are ...but you did try to play the pity card and it backfired. Just take it as a lesson learned.
Don't ruin panels by making them all about you.
Even ask raptavio, the truth is, it's all about me!
As I've said earlier, we seem to live in an era where verbal abuse is entertainment. Evidently those who get their sick jollies from it feel the need to rationalize their behavior. Do you suppose if we tell them they're as clever as they think they are, they'll go away?
We should be so lucky.
We also live in an era where people are so thin skinned they have no clue how to let verbal abuse bounce off. Instead, they either curl into a ball of self-pity and whining, or engage the verbal abusers with very little weaponry and come out on the losing end, and then curl up into a ball of self-pity and whining.
My father taught me more than 45 years ago a neat little phrase..."sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me".
This was at a time when there was no internet and no way to simply type "logoff" or "quit" to get away. Back then, we fought the abusers by simply ignoring them. After a while, when they got no reaction, they'd simply go away to pick on someone else.
Something to think about the next time people begin flaming you.
My parents, and my school teachers, and other adults, taught me the same thing 35 years ago. It didn't work. The abusers kept right on going and going and going, no matter how much I ignored them.
As I've said in other posts, "illegitimi non carborundum" only goes so far. Everyone has a point beyond which it's of no use. For some, that point is higher than others. Even so, I doubt very many folks could handle the level of abuse I got without having their emotions at least a little bruised.
Back then, we fought the abusers by simply ignoring them.
If you ignore it, it will go away...
...after having done its damage.
(If it was bad, it will be back.)
In only mildly-related news, I just got your new (signed!) publicity photo in the mail. It looks great!
It'll have a place of honor in my office. All I need to do now is turn around a nice inked original (signed) for you in return. Still mulling over subject matter...
Re: In related news...
Thanks! I like the image, and I think I've managed to produce prints that do it justice. Photoshop 7, an HP Deskjet 5550 with photographic inks, and HP photographic plus paper. Add in a light blue opaque pen, and voila!
I await your artwork with bated breath...but don't interrupt your family vacation to do it unless you just happen to feel like it.
You know, if ever there was going to be a sympathetic group for you it was Convergence. I happened to take your picture in the greenroom before Masquerade because I knew your history and felt you had been screwed. Someone asked why I took it and I explained, they agreed you were "one of us" immediately.
I know most of the members of the LJ panel and a good portion of the folks watching, lighten up. None of them had anything nasty to say about you before you got belligerent and I doubt any of them want to carry a grudge.
Some people are asshats and nothing you say will change that. Remember that most people you met last weekend applaud your courage to get up and profess your interests.
Perhaps, one day, I'll feel like "one of us".
It's funny, I've read a lot of your comments in various LJ's, and never realized it was you who did that fantastic costume. Good work!
Oh, and the people who just keep flinging crap and all that? They're just trying to bask in some of that reflected lime light. I used to hang with rock bands, and the same thing was going on there. Happens all the time, unfortunately. Don't let it get you down, it's not even really personal (which is quite an ego inflater for some, but on that one I suspect you're rather immune).
Rock on! \m/
Living Well Is The Best Revenge
Sorry for the late reply...
I just wanted to say it's really kinda sad that raptavio
just spent the past week screaming his life away on the internet instead of spending quality time with his children. His home life must be pretty dysfunctionally FUBAR if the only thing he's got going for him is his ability to be a jerk towards other people.
It's like he's dug himself a hole, and the only way he can think to get out of it is to keep digging.
I feel sorry for him. And his kids.
Assuming he even actually has any.