November 27th, 2005


Friends and enemies

Recently, a friend thanked me, in a friends-only post, for "being an absolutely unwavering friend, no matter what has ever happened, [and f]or being a kind and generous person, even when others would say otherwise about you". My reply was "What are friends for?"

To me, this is central to the idea of being a friend. A friend is someone who's there for you, and unstinting and unwavering when you need help. I try hard not to let my friends down in that department. Most of the time, I even succeed.

I see no contradiction in others saying that I'm not kind and generous. There are folks out there - even some of them on LJ - who have managed to make an enemy of me. I'm not quite as bad as one fictional character who "held grudges until they died of old age and then had them stuffed and mounted", but once someone has gone to the extent of not just getting me mad at them, but truly making an enemy of me, I'm not inclined to forgive easily - or, absent exceptional conditions, at all.

I have no problem with the idea of being some folks' best friend and others' worst enemy. Those are not at all incompatible.
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Address Book and Treo problems

Earlier today, I discovered that Address Book had magically lost all of its data. After working with AppleCare and discovering that it was well and truly gone, I thought, "No problem - just resync with the Treo, and it'll reload everything." Wrong. That deleted everything off the Treo, too. I managed to recover almost everything from a full backup, but it was still annoying.

In the process of doing that, I saw that Palm had introduced an update to the Treo's firmware that corrected an annoyance. I got that installed with no problems. One of the documented restrictions was that I'd have to re-pair the Treo with my Bluetooth devices. No problem, right? Wrong. The laptop wouldn't complete the pairing process, and it looks like they changed something that keeps it from working. I'm going to have to call Palm tomorrow and see what they broke.
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